rate me please. also advice for coping with shyness? (Answers: 10) (Comments: 0)

img169.imageshack.us/i/matty.jpg/ also, is there a way to get girls to approach u instead of the other way around, as i am very, very shy. Or is there way to cope with my shyness. thx

Coping with Shyness and my thoughts? (Answers: 2) (Comments: 0)

Bear with me, this may be a long question but I just need some general advice. Do I think too much ? Is it normal to live life with lots of thoughts going through your head ? I have always had social anxiety and extreme shyness around other people and while at work. I can go days and weeks where I feel ok and then it comes back. Sometimes I feel so rigid and " just can't be myself." It makes me really sad, frustrated and helpless. I just want to live a normal life and be able to smile and laugh when I want or to be serious when I want. Sometimes just walking down a street with cars at the side or walking down a corridoor of people can be difficult. And all my life I have had thoughts running through my head to try and help. Thoughts like " Be yourself" " Keep a clear head " " Adapt your anxious thoughts " " Be positive " Or affirmative thoughts like " I look ok " " I look good" etc. I don't like having all these thoughts in my head but feel that I need them in order to stop being so shy and socially anxious. I have been trying cognitive behaviour therapy which teaches to recognise anxious thoughts and to adapt them. For example instead of thinking " I look shy and awkward " you think " I look confident and normal." The only trouble is I am finding this cognitive therapy hard and just tend to have theese thoughts in my head all the time. I just want to be myself. Not to feel shy and awkward but I feel like I am going insane with all these thoughts in my head ! Would it help if I just have a clear head and get rid of all my negative thoughts instead of trying cognitive behaviour therapy. My worry is that if I stop CBT and just try and have a clear head , I may never get confident. I have had shyness all my life and it was a major reason why I was severely bullied at school and why I have never been too successfull work wise. I just feel in a no win situation. I want to be confidence and have no social anxiety or shyness but I don't want ythese thoughts in my head all the time. Thoughts that I use to try and combat the shyness. Its like somethimes I feel like a zombie. Thoughts running through my head at work and outside I can't always concentrate on what I am doing. But shyness and spcial anxiety is humiliating and embarrassing. The frustrating thing is this, when I am at home with my family or sometimes out wityh my family I am so relaxed and not shy. I just want to be like this at work and when I am out on my own. I would just like some advice from anyone or perhaps from anyone that is going through this same problem or has been ! I sound insane ! I am trying Cognitive behaviour therapy and listening to a relaxation tape every day and also taking herbal medication. Those are other thoughts that go through my head. " Listen to my tape every day " " take my tablets every day " " Identify my annxious thought and adapt them " " Be yourself. " I feel lilke if I don't have these thoughts then I will just get worse but I am fed up of reciting these thoughts in my head all the time. Sorry that this question is so long. ( I also apologise for posting this question in 2 categories, I just really need some advice.)

How do I cope with shyness around a crush? (Answers: 8) (Comments: 0)

I have a crush on this guy at my classes, and when I have to do work around him I just go like jelly and act all crazy. How can I forget about him and keep my cool? Thanks

Shyness preventing me from getting job? (Answers: 16) (Comments: 0)

I've just finished high school, and I do not yet have my results. In the break between high school and college I want to get a job so I'll have something to put on my CV in future. However, I have very severe shyness and I can't face not being with people I know. Also, I am not very good with social skills and I fear being seen as weird by my colleagues. So, I would love to get a job (and my mum is pressuring me) but I find it so hard, but I can't talk to my mum about it. Any tips for coping with shyness?

how to cope with shyness.!? (Answers: 6) (Comments: 0)

I get really shy and go really red, just infront of the guy i like. Is their any therapy, ot exercise i can do to get rid and help with shyness, and any really good make up to cover the redness.! thankss! xx O and also, it really doesnt look sweet when i go red!! please help!! xx